Have you ever had the Lord open a door but not been at peace? Paul experienced the same thing. I was reading 2 Corinthians 2 last night at got stuck thinking on this section:
“When I came to Troas to preach the gospel of Christ, even though a door was opened for me in the Lord, my spirit was not at rest because I did not find my brother Titus there. So I took leave of them and went on to Macedonia. But thanks be to God, who in Christ always leads us in triumphal procession, and through us spreads the fragrance of the knowledge of him everywhere.” 2 Corinthians 2:12-14 ESV
God opened a door for Paul but even though Paul was in God’s will, he was not at rest. Why? Because Titus wasn’t there. We too can be in God’s will and feel unsettled because someone we love and know is not present. Now I want you to notice what Paul does. Although the Lord had opened a door for Paul at Troas, Paul left because Titus wasn’t there. I’m not going to debate the theology of whether Paul should have left or not, that is not the point of the passage because of the next verse-thanks be to God! It is God who always leads us in triumphal procession for the sake of the Gospel! If you have repented of your sins and surrendered to Jesus, then God in His Sovereignty continues to spread the Gospel fragrance through our lives, which He purchased with His own blood despite our shortcomings, mistakes, and failures. (Going on in the context, I don’t want to neglect to mention that Believers are salt and light – refreshing each other and a reminder of coming judgment to outsiders, verses 15-17).
Scripture Passage: Genesis 2:18-25
Observations on the Context:
God did not create us to be alone. We all need community. We need relationship with other human beings. Not only do we need community, but most humans need marriage. Some are blessed with a call or ability to live a single life devoted to the Lord and His service (1 Corinthians 7; Matthew 19), but most are called to marriage.
God established the marriage relationship for companionship, pleasure, and the continuance of the human race. The home is founded upon a mother and father who enter a marriage covenant before God. Adam needed a wife, not an animal companion (sorry animal lovers). Adam need a human helper. God created Eve from Adam’s rib, from his side to be “under his arm” but not under his feet. There is male headship seen here. However, leadership does not denote domineering or cruel treatment. Eve was called woman, literally – womb-man. Of course, it is also a funny to think of Adam saying Wo – man! When he first saw Eve. In verse 23, Adam clearly says “at last,” he had desired a human mate. Adam didn’t just need a friend or a co-worker, he needed a wife and God gave him one.
Adam was given the task of naming all the animals, afterward, God sent Eve.
Adam and Eve were both naked – they were completely innocent and their relationship had no secrets.
Adam and Eve were not children. They were created as man and woman.
God clearly establishes the role of marriage in the future: a man is to leave his parents and be united to his wife. They become one, not just physically but emotionally, spiritually, and in their everyday lives – that is God’s intention. Ultimately, marriage is a representation of Christ’s relationship with His people (Eph 5).
Marriage is important. God’s design is that marriage only occurs between one man and one woman and their relationship is to be exclusive and surpassing all other relationships (even one’s parents who have been a part of your life longer than your spouse).
It is not wrong to desire a spouse. However, God is still sovereign. There is something for us to pause and reflect upon to learn: God brought Adam and Eve together. We cannot fashion our spouse ourselves, we need not hide ourselves in a room away from others either, but it is God who divinely works through our lives and at the right time brings a suitable spouse along.
Marriage is the norm for men and women. Singleness is not as common and is instead an even greater blessing to be single-mindedly devoted to the Lord.
Father, help me to grasp Your view of marriage and not to back down from what Your Word teaches. Help me to honor and value marriage (Hebrews 13:4). Lord, help me to look to You as my source and the sovereign of my relationships, but let me not avoid the desire for marriage if You place it within me like Adam. Amen.
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